Loud Club Game

This is an excerpt from our members-only content, just so you know we’re not actually talking crap and that this stuff is real and it works. In our experience the toughest thing for most newbies is club game. This article is a good starting point for what is possible…

The biggest mistake every unsuccessful guy is making once they get talking to girls in loud bars

If you’re in a loud bar and you’ve managed to open a girl (not hard if you use the ninja opening tricks out in that audio) and you don’t score, chances are 99% that you’re making this one common-sense error.

Don’t worry, you’re not a dumbass for making it. In fact, if anything it proves that you’re a real nice, decent guy with good upbringing. Who then goes home to sleep with his hand.

It’s super hard holding a real conversation in a crowded club. You can rule out groups for sure. But singles and two-sets RULE. And this is why the gurus are scoring night after night, and why we’re pulling hotties AT THE BAR IN FIVE OR LESS MINUTES.

The solution is kind of counter-intuitive: see, the thing is, you’ve GOT to score fast. It’s all about time and place. Don’t be mislead by the “Incredible Connection” myth – yes, you’re right, girls do want to meet that wonderful one guy, that’s true. No, they are not expecting (not even hoping, usually!) to meet him in a smoky, loud bar when they’re half-way drunk.

They’re there for the same reason you are: to score. They won’t say it – they’re there to have fun and dance, but come on, there’s dance classes and tea parties and ten pin bowling to do that ALONE. Clubs are about flirting and fun.

If you offer what she wants but in the wrong context, you lose. At the bar, you’ve got to give her what’s appropriate – which is flirty fun. As a side note to this you might get laid, but don’t worry about that yet – just do this.

(As a side note, if you’re out there looking for ‘the One’, think about this as pragmatic drip-feeding. You can’t jump right in, it’s bit by bit. Give it too much and you’ll kill it.)

So here you go, step-by-step:

Approach & Open, transition and continue playful (if stilted by loud music) interaction. Your body language should be open, reclining and hands available. (I like to lean against the bar with my arm outstretch towards her, like “I’m in control”, and so I have a hand avilable in her direction. About half the time she’ll mirror this which sets you up to grab her hand beautifully just now.)

NEVER lean in to hear her, make her lean in to you. When she does, speak into her ear, softly so she pulls close – you want her so close your lips are brushing her ear unintentionally. It’s very confusing for her (she’s asking what your intentions are) and also very exciting – perfect!

Don’t say it directly, but let everything else (your body language, eye contact, expression, & tone) say “I’m gonna fuck you senseless, just try letting down your guard.”

After about 2 minutes of chatting, clasp her hand gently at a punctuation in the conversation. If she doesn’t push you away, you’re in. Hold it for a couple of seconds there and continue on as if nothing happened. (You might fancy a devilish smile. If you do, that is fine by me…)

I like to do two things now quite rapidly. First, move her hand, either to your other hand or to rest on the bar or otherwise. 95% of the time she won’t break off (if she does, rinse and repeat as before) – but the benefit is that it tricks her subconscious into feeling this has been happening a bunch longer than it has, and it also opportunes you to safely move in a little closer (slash drag her to you if you’re running a  power playful interaction).

Getting this kiss now is EASY. Chat to her, talk softer so she has to move closer. You can either just slow your conversation right down while you’re close like that, she’ll turn to face you, you look her in the eyes and flit to her mouth, back to her eyes, while you slowly move in and eventually touch lips. Or you keep your lips close to her ear and plant a kiss on her neck. And some more. And then turn her face gently with your fingers on her chin, and kiss her lips.

Done!

This is a sick way to do this, because hand holding is pretty safe for her, you’ve got a good success rate. But at the same time, once she’s held hands, you’re in! Remember Baron’s echoing voice in your head: “If you make a move on her and she declines, but doesn’t leave, she wants it, but she just wants to be warmed up more first.” So don’t leave like a pansy, if you don’t make it, keep warming her up and then do it AGAIN.