Every day I hear the same thing from guys – how do I get her to like me? And my first question every time is the same: how many other girls have you met this week?

Usually that answer is, “um, none.” Which is fine – nobody needs you to get good at this stuff, except for you, we’re all doing fine. But why don’t we leave the house and go and actually meet girls? I hear a lot about how:

• “I’m not good looking”
• “I’m not funny naturally”
• “I don’t know what to say”
• “I’m so tired”
• “I’m too depressed”

I don’t judge anyone who uses these excuses. I understand why you do, and I understand that there’s probably a seed of truth in them too.

All I can say is “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten.”

And if you’re asking those questions, you’re probably not altogether delighted with what you’ve always gotten.

Pick Up is a lifeskills sport. It’s a lifeskill and it’ll change your life and it has the potential to radically improve your quality of living. But it’s also like a sport, if you think you can start at the top, you need to know you really can’t. You’re going to start at the bottom of the barrel in the 8th Division, and you’ve got to work your way up to the Premier League.

There’s a lot of blood, sweat and tears. But the journey is fun too – depression lifts when you have a goal and know you have a direction. You have a new burst of energy when you realise your life is coming together. It’s just incredible when you realise the things that you always thought were out of your grasp are actually so close you can clinch them – and when you actually get them. I’m not just talking about sex here, and having a hot girlfriend (yes, you will have those if you work on this).

I’m talking about a NEW LIFE: this isn’t just about “what to say” — this is about becoming a man of value, a man women want, a man men respect and want to be. It’s about your job and career, it’s about your body, it’s about your beliefs about life and people and how much you enjoy life and its simple things, and how little you’re able to worry. It’s about freedom.

You’ll never have those things until you begin.

When are you going to START? When are you going to go out and approach girls? When are you going to to decide what you want your life to be and start taking steps to actualise that?

Read the articles, listen to the courses, but then go and do something about it. Decide what you want, plan how to get it, go develop the skills, and go and grab it.

It’s not difficult – it’s easy. Problem is, nobody bothers to sit down and work out – and I mean REALLY WORK OUT – what they want, and how they’re going to get it. I strongly believe pick up, and this lifestyle is about being different. It’s about being the 2% who do go and do that, and who do suck it up and take the pain and who do go out and make things happen.

People who feel the fear and do it anyway. People who see the doubt and eat it up.

Stop settling for second best. Go and take action. Take action now.

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