Well, I’m going to frustrate you a little right now. The answer is also you don’t. (But also, you do.)
How helpful was that?
I do what I can, I live to serve…
No, alright here’s the thing: Anglo-Saxon guys (that’s most of us reading this website) are brought up with this weird idea of “equality” [...]

Almost every pickup “guru” or coach will tell you the same thing: you need to be something different to be a PUA. They won’t say it like this, but what they really mean is: “You’re not good enough as yourself, please be something else.”
Be talkative (Mystery), be hypnotic / use the right patterns (Ross Jefferies), [...]