You’re busy looking across the bar or club and you see the girl of your dreams- For me she is 5 foot 11, long brunette hair, big seductive blue eyes wearing a white top, tight skinny jeans and red high heels. How can you get this girl? You want her- I’ve had her. What are you doing wrong and how can you score your perfect girl. Does is it have to do with income?  No.  Is it age?  Not even close.  The biggest factor there is without a doubt is communication.

This is just the tip of the iceberg. Communication of course is how we talk to other people, right? Now think about this 70% of our day-to-day (night-to-night) communication is done in a way where you don’t have to speak at all?  That’s right.  The majority of what we communicate doesn’t even come from our mouths! 10% is what you say, 20% percent is how you say it, what is the other 70%?

This 70% of communication is called body language.  Even when we aren’t talking, we are always sending off these ‘signals’ that other people, women especially, pick up subconsciously. (It is important that you learn to read body language and learn how to send out the right body language) 

If you see someone walking with their hands in their pockets and their head down, will you be more likely to approach this person?  Or would you be more likely to approach a person with their head up and shoulders thrown back?  This is my point exactly.

There are 2 aspects to Body language

1. Giving off positive Body Language (Part1)
2. Being able to read body Language (Part 2)

(This article is an introduction to body language in general. Keep an eye out for part 2 in later articles. We will describe How to read her body language to see her intent, and find the right moment to kiss her.)

The greatest thing about modifying your body language is that the results are almost instant- people can see the difference.  From the moment you start using them you start feeling better about yourself and people will be more likely to approach you.  Try this, take a walk down the street and do the following: Pull you shoulders back, lift your chin slightly with your chest up, now imagine that there is a string tied around your waist and you are being pulled along by that string. Do it now…….. and then keep reading!

Ok You’re back- How did you feel? I bet you felt confident and good about yourself- I bet you even had a little smirk on your face while you did it. If you had to ask someone who saw you walk past I bet they would say you looked confident, not to mention cool and calm.

The other great thing about body language is the changes are small and subtle, but they can be tricky to use them all the time but through effort and practice you WILL become a natural. What does this mean, it means that initially it takes work but eventually you will do it without thinking about it. (Even your muscles in your shoulders and back get used to walking up straight. Note: Going to Gym and working you’re back and shoulders make a huge change to your posture.)

Let’s talk about the 10 body language secrets that I personally use to help me attract women- they work all the time- In Business and Pick Up:

1. Cool- Don’t Move too much – Being cool is someone who is not fazed by the outside world. Think about someone who is fidgety and jerky- they come across as insecure- not cool.  Confident men who are successful with women make very controlled movements- think about how James Bond acts.  He always walks slowly and only makes controlled movements- unless he is chasing some Nigerian from roof top-to-roof top (what an awesome scene- for the first movie).  You will never see a confident man with restless leg syndrome or fidgeting with their fingers.  By slowing down your movement you are presenting to the rest of the world a more “comfortable” version of yourself and it makes you that much more approach-friendly.
2. Calm- Lean Back and Relax – When you are sitting up or in any sort of position that isn’t standing up, lay back and relax- Girls love a guy who looks relaxed in his own skin. I love to sit on the back of a chair while I am talking to a girl (plus I’m tall so it puts me at her level), or when I’m at the bar- I lean back and put my elbow on the bar counter with my one foot over the other).  If there is nothing else to lean on let your arms hang down at your sides, and make yourself as comfortable as you possibly can. The best part about leaning back is that it makes the girl lean in (especially in a club with loud music) if she is leaning in you are already 50% there when you go in for the kiss.
3. Confident – In any situation be spacious, always take up as much space as possible- it makes you look confident.  If you’re sitting in a couch, lean back and kick your legs out.  This is a “territorial” thing that all people notice subconsciously. People will think this guy is not afraid to take the lead.  If people see you taking up this space they will automatically assume you to be the alpha male (Alpha make is the male that all the girls are attracted to) in the room and that you are the one who is the most laid back and fun!
4. Winking- If a girl says something that is far fetched- give her an exaggerated wink and say “of course” or “sure” in a very sarcastic way. 9 times out of 10 she will laugh and affectionately hit you on the arm (which is a massive SOI- Signal of interest)
5. Shielding yourself- Shy guys have a tendency of “shielding” themselves from other people by sitting forward with their arms folded.  Don’t do this as it makes you look closed off.  Relax!  Be cool. You want to be seen as the Alpha Male but still as approachable.
6. Raising your Eyebrows- This is fairly complicated to do and time appropriately, but if a girl says something dodgy or stupid- just pause, and raise you eyebrows. But say nothing- this will create an awkward moment for her.
7. Walking Posture – People notice you when you walk, I had a professor that always looked at his feet, he was the nicest man alive- but if you didn’t know him, you would think he was ashamed to be alive.  If you walk with your head down with your hands in your pocket you will look completely unapproachable and insecure. Walk as if you mean it, back straight, with your head tilted up just a bit.  Stick your chest out and bring your shoulders back. (like I demonstrated earlier)  This shows women what they are most attracted too, confidence.  Take a look at any millionaire, Rockstar, or celebrity.  They always walk this way and it’s because they are confident with themselves.  Guys who you should look out for is Brad Pitt and George Clooney. Those 2 have the best body language out of anyone.
8. Open Yourself – When you are approaching women stand or sit with your palms slightly exposed with your arms at your sides and with your legs shoulder width apart (or out in front of you if you are sitting).  Don’t ever cross your arms or your legs as this is a signal for being “closed” off.  You always want to come across as friendly, and not dangerous… showing people your palms reassures them.
9. Add some Indifference – You never want to show too much emotion at any given time- because you want to keep girls guessing what you are thinking, this makes you seem as if you aren’t in control of your life or your situation. Girls love to get in your head; don’t let them get in there.
10. Smiling- Don’t smile too much. Most Guys walk straight up to a girl and crack this huge goofy ass smile. She has done nothing to deserve this smile- so don’t give her one yet…. Keep chatting and if she says something cool like “I race sports car” then smile because now she deserves it. So many Girls have told me guys smile too much when they have done nothing to deserve the smile.

If you can master each one of those body language principles then you will be in a completely different league with women then anyone you know.

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-Peace

Baron

P.S >>>>>>

1- What’s your biggest body language sticking point?

2- Do you have a plan to correct it? If so, what?

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